In my work I frequently encounter individuals who are struggling because they want to be “normal” or you know “like everyone else”. Statements such as this always cause me to pause before I question what is meant by “normal”. After hearing the response I always discuss how ”normal” is relative, meaning usually normal is determined by what one is considering.
I think it is always distressing when anyone tries to be something other than themselves. I was reminded of this recently as I prepared for a stressful meeting, and came across a quote that reminded of the need to be yourself. After thinking about this for a few minutes I decided that the best way to approach the meeting was to be me. Address the situation as I would, using my words, and not as I think other more successful individuals or more assertive individuals would. After making this decision, I became less stressed because I know how to be me. It was the belief that the only way to make this situation successful was to act and speak like someone else that was stressing me.
I wonder how many of us are stressed or upset because we are not being ourselves because we believe who we are is not good enough. So I challenge those wanting to be “normal” to spend some time with yourself, getting to know yourself, and recognizing the many ways that you are good enough. So normal is most rewarding when it means being normal for you.
SBS Psychological Associates, Inc.
